Date By Numbers

If you wrote a book, I would buy at least 5 copies. Because I would need one and I have at least 4 people I can think of off the top of my head who I would gift it to, though there are probably more.

Thu, 23 May 2013 01:18:44 -0400

You are melting my heart.

If you wrote a book, I'd totally buy it!

Thu, 23 May 2013 00:55:03 -0400

I am going to hold you to that, Anonymous.

so frustrated this morning: met this guy on Monday & we really really hit it off. He texted me that night what a good time he had & then again on Tuesday asking how my day was going. I responded within 20 min and he didnt respond for 3+ hours. I was at the gym when he responded, asking what I was doing. I responded like 2 hours after that I might be going to an IWNY event & he didnt respond TILL THIS MORNING that he "ended up relaxing" and asking when can he see me again. How would you play this

Wed, 22 May 2013 12:39:17 -0400

I usually just respond with something like, “I’m around this weekend. Call me if you want to make plans.”

I don’t like the texting game. I don’t like it one bit.

What is your favorite place to shop? Love your outfit choices!

Sat, 18 May 2013 12:58:17 -0400

Oh, thanks love! I’m a big fan of Nordstrom Rack, TJMaxx, Marshall’s, Necessary Clothing, and Pitaya.

Actually just ordered this because it looked so versatile. Or like I could wear it once. It’s a marvel I made it out of credit card debt.

That smile is fake. But you know what they say… — Oh...

Fri, 17 May 2013 14:12:53 -0400

That smile is fake. But you know what they say…
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Oh it’s all junk, I don’t know.

About the "tired of dating" essay. Is it really worth it? I've been used, abused, taken advantage of, humiliated, insulted, and all I have to show for it is a sense that something is wrong with me and I'm in a rut with no way out. The only payoff is I might find some woman who may love me for some time but then our differences could drive us apart, like most of everyone else, bringing me back to square one, only older and with fewer options. Is it really worth it?

Thu, 16 May 2013 19:59:59 -0400

It might be worth talking to someone with a degree.

I don’t mean that cruelly. I say it because you sound sad and hurt in a way I am not educated to deal with.

"You’re not tired of dating; you’re just tired. You’re tired of bearing the weight alone. You’re..."

Thu, 16 May 2013 17:50:00 -0400

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You’re not tired of dating; you’re just tired. You’re tired of bearing the weight alone. You’re tired of an empty apartment and dinner for one. You’re tired of ricocheting off yourself and slugging shots at the bar. You’re tired of playing dress up with no one to dress you down. You’re tired of the excruciating loneliness that creeps onto tingling skin, begging for touch like sucking for air. And so am I. So is she. So is he, and that girl, and those boys, and so many other people you see on the train, in the market, across the table. But we keep doing it because it’s worth it, because it’s everything, because for all the awkward hellos and terrible dinners, there’s one flawed masterpiece who’s singing your harmony in the SUV three parking spots over.

It’s not about dating. It’s never been about getting set up or going online or any of the crazy things we do to meet someone; it’s not about any of that. It’s about faith. It’s about hope. It’s about remembering the person you’re looking for isn’t a checkmark, but a journey, a stroke of luck, an oh my god and a holy shit and a you won’t believe what happened. It’s the best part of life. And it’s out there. Every great story, every novel and film and letter written only to be burned is about this. And we’re all tired of bearing the weight of those stories… but we bear them together. Keep swimming to the surface, keep swimming ‘til your hands are numb and your lungs are empty and everything is simultaneously tight and enormous because the moment you burst to the surface, your whole existence will change. That’s why we do this. That’s why we do anything.

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- Dear DateByNumbers on CollegeCandy

All-nighter coming up. Ain’t no thang. — Dress:...

Thu, 16 May 2013 14:17:39 -0400

All-nighter coming up. Ain’t no thang.
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Dress: Maggy London; Shoes: Target

Quick question: Who should be planning the dates? On the one hand, I like when a guy makes some suggestions/plans at first. But I also like to suggest stuff and want him to care about what I want to do. I think I am being harsh...he's "lazy" if he asks me to suggest something, and if he suggests something, he's not concerned with what I want. See...If I think like this I'm going to be a dating fail. Help!

Wed, 15 May 2013 23:09:50 -0400

Whoa there, slugger. Take a deep breath. This isn’t war strategy, it’s just a date, and if there’s something you want to do, you suggest it.

In my book, whoever asks, plans. Bottom line, it’s just not that hard to pick a bar, a restaurant, or a cheap ass bottle of wine and a discreet spot in the park. The defining moments should be on the date, not the planning of it.

Sweet Jesus, I did it. I seriously fucking did it. ALL THE...

Wed, 15 May 2013 22:00:27 -0400

Sweet Jesus, I did it.

I seriously fucking did it.

ALL THE MONIES ARE MINE NOW, CREDIT CARD.

Tie-dye! — Dress, Shoes, Earrings: Nordstrom Rack

Wed, 15 May 2013 13:43:00 -0400

Tie-dye!

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Dress, Shoes, Earrings: Nordstrom Rack

Wed, 15 May 2013 11:40:07 -0400

The most amazing comment on TheFrenemy’s post over at...

Tue, 14 May 2013 13:33:03 -0400

The most amazing comment on TheFrenemy’s post over at Huffington Post.

As a professional recruiter and interviewer for Google, I would advise against the point made re : what to say at the end of an interviewer. That particular question and wording comes across as brash and pushy. I would not hire that person.

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:31:53 -0400

Both sides of the coin, friends.

…Google, you say? You folks are known for quite the interview process. You would know.

Whatever gets the job, y’all.

Bananas superficial, I know...but do you have any regimen for keeping your teeth so white? You have an amazing smile, definitely one of your best features no matter your outfit/look of the day! Sincerely, a Lady Reader-Fan

Mon, 13 May 2013 23:02:08 -0400

Eight years of orthodontics, then knock your teeth out, file them down with an industrial file on picture day, knock them out again, and then knock them out ONE MORE TIME, and then once most of your visible teeth have been moved and/or replaced, take all your photos with a very strong flash.

But in retrospect, I really don’t recommend it.

(And thank you.)

Bold Moves advice for your readers: At the end of a job interview, ask the bold question "So do you have any hesitations about hiring me or doubts about my success in this position?" It shows your interviewer that you are confident enough to deal with criticism and also gives you a chance to further explain anything that they might have questions about. Just did it in a job interview for my dream job on Friday and got a verbal job offer today!

Mon, 13 May 2013 16:50:10 -0400

Oh, congrats on the offer! Huzzah! Bold Moves all year.

Happy Mother’s Day, you timeless babe. May our cabins...

Sun, 12 May 2013 16:27:25 -0400

Happy Mother’s Day, you timeless babe. May our cabins always be full of doting, yet poorly dressed men.

This starts with a solo spotlight on the mic, another spotlight...

Fri, 10 May 2013 16:10:00 -0400

This starts with a solo spotlight on the mic, another spotlight lights up another sexy voice, smoke wafts lazily through the air, a slow red light begins to illuminate the stage, and before you know it, you’re crawling down the bar pouring whiskey in every willing mouth.

It’s the weekend.

An important PSA from one of my closest companions. Because...

Tue, 07 May 2013 18:44:20 -0400

An important PSA from one of my closest companions.

Because this seems to be a rampant problem amongst my friend circle. And amongst my readers. And amongst the seemingly most indecisive class of men to enter the dating realm ever.

Stay strong, love. There’s a gallon of vodka with your name on it in Colorado.

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Tue, 07 May 2013 16:15:43 -0400

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