Write a list of all the actions that, in retrospect, were red flags in your relationships: ignored texts, only calling past 9 pm, treating you poorly in front of their friends, whatever it may have been. This brief list should act as a tangible reminder of times in your next relationship when you should speak out. It’s not when you should go into attack mode, but simply when to say, “Hey, that hurt my feelings.” It won’t make the next guy into a prince, but it will help you be more aware when he’s closer to the Prince of Darkness than Prince Charming.
What’s really important is to not let being treated poorly snowball. If you never reprimand a dog for shitting on the carpet, how’s he going to know he shouldn’t? The nice thing about people, as opposed to dogs, is that if a person repeatedly craps on the carpet of your soul despite your best efforts to tell them not to, you have full right to throw them out. Next time, do so.”