Newsflash women: you have feelings. Guys have feelings. Animals even have feelings because don’t pretend you’ve never seen a dog look guilty! And we are all entitled to express those feelings in a responsible and honest way. By no means should you get drunk and throw a tantrum, but please, learn to talk to people. Stop being so embarrassed about what would make you happy. You want the promotion? Ask for it! You want to be exclusive? Say so! You want to eat Italian tonight instead? Little Italy, look out!
Is there context and timing and exceptions? Of course. But the key to a good relationship of any kind, whether that be physical, romantic, platonic, familial, professional, what have you, is good communication. And if you don’t feel like you can communicate honestly with someone without it ruining the relationship, then maybe it’s not a relationship worth pursuing. We spend so much time acting like wanting to be in a loving, committed relationship is something to be ashamed of, but what’s truly shameful is denying yourself happiness out of sheer fear of vulnerability. Will you get what you want if you ask for it? Maybe not. But how’s anyone going to know you want it if you never ask?”