babablogsheep asked: I don't know what to do. My boyfriend cheated on me. He didn't tell me for three days, I found out, he admitted and seemed genuinely remorseful. I never saw it coming and it has literally torn me apart. He was at his best friend's. He made-out with another girl, everyone was really drunk. His best friend cheated that night too. I love him. A lot. He says he hates himself and can't believe he hurt me. Can I be with someone who cheated on me? He begged me to not leave him. I broke up with him.
Hugs.
Alcohol doesn’t make people cheat. Getting shitfaced and making out with someone other than your girlfriend is thoughtless. Don’t let them try to excuse each other’s behavior by saying they were just that drunk.
But, that being said, people make mistakes. Most of my friends have. I have. And while those mistakes need to be addressed, it doesn’t mean you can’t be with that person. If he is genuinely remorseful and you really do love him, you can get through this. He may have to court you again, it may take you a long time to warm up to him, but he can repent and you can forgive… as long as that’s what you want.
You’re hurt and you’re angry - it’s going to be a bit until you can sort through your emotions rationally and decide the right thing to do. And if he wants you, he’ll fight for you. Right now, just surround yourself with friends.
Once a cheater does not always a cheater make. Cheating fractures your bond, but fractures can heal. Give yourself time to recover and then give him time to prove he won’t do it again.
