tooblessedtogetdressed asked: I am having the hardest time. I feel alone, abandonded, and all around... sad. My exboyfriend, who I still(?) am in love with, has a new girlfriend. My head is completely clouded. I don't know how I feel about him, and I don't even know what I want.I don't even know if Iove him. I'm questioning myself as I write this. How do I know that I want to be with him? And how do I know that I don't? How do I know that I do, in fact, love him?
Man, that head swirl is the worst.
Is it okay to not know what you want. You don’t need to either. You can’t make decisions while writhing in a love hangover. Try to think about like it’s an actual hangover. When you’ve lapped the whisky trough dry and you’re marinating in embarrassment, are you really equipped to make life decisions? Of course not. You can’t make sound judgments when you’re depressed and vomiting. You delete the text messages, apologize to your friends, drink a ton of water, eat some greasy food, and get on with it. Don’t wallow in pity, just pull yourself together.
What you need to do is put all your effort in taking care of yourself, rather than “taking care of him” emotionally. You can’t be clear-headed about someone who broke your heart. But you can, in time, begin to think clearly by surrounding yourself with people who do love you and have not abandoned you.
Eat healthy. Drink water. Get out of bed. Exercise. Spend time with friends. And then, when you feel balanced, give yourself time to think about him. Right now, all you can possibly know without a doubt is that it is time to take care of yourself.
