Anonymous asked: This is somewhat of a complicated situation, hope you can help defuse things a bit! My ex will not leave me alone. I am tremendously happy with my new girlfriend, but my ex will not stop calling/texting/professing her undying love for me. I'm annoyed with myself because I respond, but I know that I don't want to be with her (she cheated on me). I tell her I don't want to hear from her, we go without talking for a week, but inevitably end up chatting. Is there a way out? - A Confused Lesbian
Alright, this “inevitably end up chatting” is the root of your problem.
Stop it. Seriously, stop it. Did you have irritating siblings? Think back to the typical I-don’t-want-to-deal-with-this-parental-advice: if you want them to stop bothering you, be completely unperturbed. Do not react. Just ignore it and eventually they will stop.
And when I say eventually, I mean probably in months because this girl sounds relentless, but you owe it to yourself and to your new girlfriend to cut this person out of your life.
One final time, make it clear you don’t want her to be a part of your life anymore, and then commence the permanent silent treatment. She has no reason to stop trying when you keep giving her an in.
