Anonymous asked: Video gamer's girlfriend again. I suppose it's not as bad as that. I have been nagging him a lot about it lately. He does apologize and say that he values me more than his stupid games. The problem is that nothing is changing. Sometimes I feel like his expectation is that I should just get used to it and let him have his hobby. I feel like he should make it up to me somehow - all this time that he's ignored me for. He never used to play. He used to be romantic. Not anymore. Stupid video games.
Maybe he should stop listening to Lana Del Rey’s romanticized version of watching her boyfriend play video games and then unzipping his favorite sundress. Because Lana is clearly one of those girls who pouts her lips and is like, “I love football and being quiet and making sandwiches. I’m sexxy. Do you like bad girls who slur their words into babytalk? Is that true?”
Sorry. Tangent. I’m glad it’s not as bad as it sounded.
Okay, one, you can’t expect him to make it up to you because that’s an expectation that cannot be quantified. There’s no way for him to know how to do that.
What you can express is that you no longer feel special. Let’s be real here when I say that this isn’t the video games fault. They’re not his mistress. He didn’t fall for them. He very well may be missing something from the relationship, too.
You two need to have a serious talk about where you’re relationship is going, how it makes you feel, and how he can make you feel special, as well as how you make him happy. All you can do in a relationship is open a discourse, put heart and effort into fixing the problem, and if it doesn’t change, decide if what you do have is worth staying for.
