Anonymous asked: I'm not being ridiculous am I? My boyfriend has lately revived his computer game obsession. We're long distance and we skype a lot, but he spends 80% of that time either playing computer games and not talking to me (b/c he can't multitask), or sleeping. I've told him over and over again how I hate being ignored. His response is that I stress him out when I tell him this so he plays computer games to relax. I'm so sick of it. What should I do?
So… you’re telling me that when you try to have a discussion about your feelings with your boyfriend that he tells you that you’re stressing him out and ignores you to play video games?
While he sounds like a child who isn’t emotionally capable of having a girlfriend, if you do want to repair this, these are my suggestions:
- be careful you’re not nagging. If you sound like a broken record, he will tune you out. Phrasing is important… like you’re talking to a child. Because you are.
- when he is being a good boyfriend, make sure you acknowledge that… and not by comparison of when he sucks. Just a simple, “you’re being so sweet, thanks, it makes me feel really special.”
- when he begins to ignore you say, “I thought we were having a nice discussion - why did you lose interest?” The answer to this will be a lie because yo, your boyfriend is ignoring you to play video games and won’t talk to you about your relationship. Dump him.
