shorterexcerpts asked: So the bold move I'm working towards in early 2012 is a job switch, as I'm miserable and very underpaid (based on every salary survey/job listing that reveals rates) at my current job. But it is a problem, dating-wise. I don't want to stop dating entirely, but feel really hating my job (and not having a lot of spare money to go out on many dates) holds me back (and might make me less fun on dates when jobs come up.) Any advice for breaking out of this cycle?
Clearly objective one here is getting a new job. Godspeed. But think about how you interview… when they ask you what you do, you’re not like, “oh man I’m at this miserable job.” You talk about the best aspects and what you’d like to be doing. When you’re on a date and jobs come up, treat it the same way. Instead of, “I work for the most boring government office in all of history,” say, “right now I’m doing project management for a government agency, but I’d really like to put those skills to use at a creative agency so I can…” you get the idea. If you talk with ambition, rather than your current disappointment, it will show. Not only will your date hear the difference, but so will potential employers.
As for dates being expensive, even if you love your job you still might get paid shit. I’m looking at you, nonprofits. If you’re short on low-cost date ideas and googling isn’t helping, join HowAboutWe and cruise some of the ideas (even go on a date!) I made a guy get coffee with me and go to the dog park and judge dogs like we were at Westminster. Trust, other people are broke, too.