I’m assuming you’re all on the Banks train at this point, but in case you’re not, listen to this.
Here’s a little fact about my writing: most of my pieces are written to a single song that I play on repeat over and over until the piece is done. The next Thought Catalog piece is written to this one.
5:04 pm • 27 January 2014 • 14 notes
“Innocence is a relic of a time when women had the same legal status as children. Innocence is beneficial to your owner. It benefits you not at all.”
— On Turning 30 (via rachelfershleiser)
1:51 pm • 27 January 2014 • 612 notes
Wait, I didn’t know these guys were good?
12:44 pm • 24 January 2014 • 10 notes
Dating’s not supposed to be a mind game like chess, it’s supposed to be a fun playground game like tag. It’s full of giggles and wonder and sometimes you’re it, so tag the guy, and run away.
You don’t need to “incept” a man with the idea that he is chasing you. All you need to convince him of is that you are worth chasing. Do boys like to chase? Yes. Do girls like to be chased? Yes. Are gender roles malleable and open to interpretation in the world of modern dating? Yes. We all like people who are brave, self-aware, socially adept, and have their own lives they find engaging and fulfilling. Just be one of those people, and if he doesn’t think girls can be “It” in the game of tag, then you wouldn’t want to play with him anyway.
— Dear DateByNumbers on CollegeCandy
3:18 pm • 23 January 2014 • 176 notes
Here are some things that have brought me joy this week:
- The Lies We Tell On Instagram (please read the entire slideshow because it is hysterical and relevant to all of our lives)
- The Circle by Dave Eggers (read it and never post anything again, ever)
- For The Love of Money (if you ever want to feel proud of being broke)
- DuoLingo (the UX on this site is remarkably clean and beautiful… plus, learning!)
- Mon copain has taught me two chords on the guitar! What is better than a handsome man teaching you guitar? A handsome man who cooks you dinner while you learn guitar, that’s what, and that’s what I have. Get ready for an onslaught of videos of me singing and strumming seven months from now. Unfollow while you can.
- I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. I have writer’s block. Can you tell?
- And um, this. Because THANK YOU SaraJanelle.
3:37 pm • 22 January 2014 • 44 notes
what’s your pick-me-up
An old friend sent me a message recently asking if I had any go-to resources for a little pick-me-up, a little inspiration. This is what I sent her:
- Write like a mother fucker by Cheryl Strayed
- Make Good Art by Neil Gaiman
- 25 Things Every Woman Should Know by E. Jean
- The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown
- Rethinking Unpopular by Erika Napoletano
Clearly I also like a bit of chuckle when I’m seeking out the advice of others to get my ass in gear.
What are your go-to’s when you need a little inspiration in life?
6:29 pm • 20 January 2014 • 118 notes
Anonymous asked: I have been off and on w a guy for 4 years. We are off currently but he always contacts me. We hang out n he treats me like his gf. But then he will say things like I'm going on a date or you should date! But I know he doesn't mean the latter. The answer to this issue is obvious I'm sure but it's hard. I keep trying to cut ties but always fail. He says we can't be but keeps coming back. What can I say that will finally resolve this for good? It's anew year, I can't waste another year of this.
Say that. “It’s a new year, and I can’t waste another year of this.”
You clearly know better. And you know there’s no way to make this easier. There’s no book, no exercise, no theory, no nothing that makes moving on easier. All you do is make the decision and stick to it. And when you mess up, you correct it the next day.
"It’s a new year, and I can’t waste another year of this." Delete, block, throw out, burn up, toss out, and move on, because he’s never gonna be the person you need him to be. And you’re never going to be the person you want to be if you keep allowing him to hold you back.
5:45 pm • 19 January 2014 • 23 notes
Anonymous asked: I went out with some girls tonight, movie and a dinner type deal. Our waiter was fiiiine. So I thought, "WTHWPD? What the hell would Prescott do?" and dammit I played coy, with subtle flirting, tipped him half my check, and made out with a phone number. I felt alive, because I thought of you. Thanks.
3:36 pm • 18 January 2014 • 19 notes
“You tell someone you love them because you want them to know it, not because you want to hear it back.”
— Kelton Wright, Dear DateByNumbers on CollegeCandy
3:31 pm • 16 January 2014 • 171 notes