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Merry Christmas to those who celebrate and happy Wednesday to those who don’t!
Anonymous asked: Where in Idaho?? I live in the hills of Idaho and it can be a magical place. On that note please don't be weirded out if someone freaks out on you in the grocery store because that someone is probably me.
Spending the rest of break at the grocery so this can happen.
caveinimicum013 asked: I just finished my semester, and I'm finally getting the chance to let you know how excited I am for your new book. Your book is going to be like the Beyonce album, I'll have to buy it, even if I don't have the money. I hope your book doesn't mean the end of this blog because it's only recently I've realized how much I rely on it for boosts of confidence. But I'm slowly learning to not use you as a crutch; I'm slowly climbing out of my rock bottom, and learning to be happy with where I am.
If anything in my life could be a shimmer of Beyonce, I would be fucking delighted.
Here’s to making 2014 the year all of us try to Be Like Bey.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to a little house in the hills of Idaho to snuggle up with my family. Love you all oodles. Just oodles and oodles and oodles.
Y’all have been sending in wonderful questions, notes, observations, and the occasional complaint, and rather than continue to spam my dash, some of the sweet ones are after the jump so I can delete them from my inbox but still read them whenever I’m crying in public about my missing cat again.
(Also, I’m actually saving a lot of your thoughtful questions for the book. So, maybe you’ll get your answer in a few months? Oops.)
It’s really not fair that anytime I get hurt, I have the Internet to cushion my fall. What a wonderful community.
If you want the job, you apply for it. If you need a lawyer, you call one. If you like a band, you buy the album. And if you want to hang out with someone, you ask them. That’s it. Seriously. You can ask them to go to a concert, you can ask them to join you for a cup of coffee, you can ask them out for a drink, you can ask if they want to go for a walk, for a hike, for a jog, for a bite, for a beer, for a bender, whatever! Do things have the potential to get a little awkward for 35 seconds when that person turns out to be taken or attracted to the opposite sex or has rules against dating coworkers or maybe just has had a really shit year and isn’t ready to start answering questions that have to do with where they’re from or who they know and in the end them saying no has nothing to do with you at all? Well, yeah. But like I said, the “no” likely has nothing to do with you when the “yes” has everything to do with you.
So ask. That’s the only way anything goes anywhere.”
rantingsravingsdragontamings asked: Coworker: "So what do you think of that guy that subs here?" Me: "I think he's kind of a babe to tell you the truth." CW: "Yeah I was gonna say, you two would be cute together! You should make a move!" Me: "I already did! Here's the thing: if I want something, and I don't have it, it's not because I didn't ask." -This conversation happened today and I thought you might appreciate it :)
Hah, hell yeah. Heart you all.
Anonymous asked: Hey Prescott, just wanted to give you a delayed update on my BMO. During my job interview back in October, I decided to shed all my inhibitions and pretend I had known my potential colleagues for a while (I tend to take a while to come out of my shell). And although it's taken a while, I've finally got the news that I have landed my dream job! Thank you for inspiring me to be braver than I usually am.
YEAH! Get it.
Y’all, I am so excited for 2014.
Anonymous asked: Firstly, I hope your <3 is doing okay. Sending you love through this. Secondly, I have a fairly random question: you've moved all around the States and beyond. How do you find an apartment so fast?! Do you use craiglist or does your job set you up? Do you sublet when you leave early? I'm in a foreign country and for the life of me, can't find a place to book for a few months. And I'm losing $ fast.
So I’ve used Craigslist, rental companies, word-of-mouth, Facebook posts, bulletins, and straight-up begging to stay on couches, borrow spare rooms, stowaway in the galley, what have you.
When I lived abroad, places were often set up for me through the different places I worked/studied. But Facebook has also been a huge help, asking your friends to post a notice about you needing a place to stay. You never know who knows who.
You could also consider a long-term stay at an AirBnB (can get pricey, though.)
Godspeed, and tell everyone you meet you’re looking for a place.
And thank you for the kindness. I’d totally give you a place to stay.
It’s not difficult to find an image of 20-somethings and younger sitting around staring at their phones. We call it a shame, that we’re losing the ability to communicate, and that our humanity is all but gone. But that’s not the case: it’s not that we’re less social, it’s that we’re less transparent.
I was out to brunch a few weeks ago, took out my phone, and said to the my friend, “totally taking a photo of this meal and tagging you.” Then I showed her the photo, asked her to help choose the filter, and when I looked at my phone minutes later, I showed her the four Instagram notifications. She noted this sharing process, that while I was guilty of phone-at-the-table, I was inclusive regarding my activities. And I try to be every time I’m on my phone in a social space. I ask people for help on Candy Crush levels. I tell people I’m tagging them in posts about our plans. I explain the project that I’ve been eagerly waiting for a response on and consult about how to respond. I try to make my phone activity part of the social event.
If someone is reading a magazine or a newspaper while you’re sitting on the couch with them, it still feels like you’re relaxing together. You know “where” they are, whether it be lost in Hogwarts or confused about the latest legislation on unemployment. But when they’re engaged with a screen? It can feel that rather than being engrossed with something else, they’re engrossed with someone else. Therein lies the insecurity, and the feeling of being left out of something.
In the age of rampant “feelings” posts, it’s astounding that we can feel so alone in our insecurities when a video about loneliness can be watched millions of times. It’s our nature as social mammals, it is literally our nature, to want to be included in the pack, and it’s undeniable how crushing it can be when you feel like someone who you thought would include you, didn’t.
Imagine for a moment hearing a one-sided conversation, maybe you’re walking the same speed as the only other person on the sidewalk and all you’re hearing is her side, or you’re in the car with another person, and they take a call, sitting next to you, laughing and enjoying it, loudly. It isannoying to listen to one side of the conversation, because your brain is exhausting itself trying to fill in the silences. It’s easy to zone out a complete story. It’s easy to zone out your friend and his book because you’re seeing the whole conversation. It is not easy to zone out your girlfriend and her cell phone because you are only seeing one side of the conversation.
Inclusion is a hard thing to be aware of for other people, but it’s worth taking note of. It’s worth trying to talk to the person sitting in the middle, not being pulled into the conversations on either end of the table. It’s worth noticing who has been pivoted out of the circle of friends so you can open the setting to bring them in. It’s worth telling someone you’re capturing a moment with them. You don’t always have to put your phone down, sometimes all you need to do is turn it around.
When life knocks you down, look awesome.
Dress: Francesca’s; Shoes: Jessica Simpson; Necklace: street vendor