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If I could tell my 18-year-old self anything, it would be this: write it down. Write down everything because you will forget it. Keep it for yourself. Keep it on paper in leather-bound notebooks and stock pile them. Turns of phrases that haunt you, poems that rhyme too much and not at all, unexpected twists that catch you and your breath. And for the love of science, go to class.
Go to class and watch for when the professor’s speech pattern speeds up, when they’re passionate about something they’ve been covering for years. Get B’s and C’s because even though you go to class, you should go to the party and you should see the show and you should exhaust yourself. At least once, work as a waitor so you can learn how to tip and how to survive if you need to. Look for the compliments in criticism. When someone says your writing is too flowery, let it bloom. When someone says your skirt is too short, revel in your confidence in your body. When someone says there’s no future in an English major, know that you are made of courage and passion. An hour of Candy Crush will never be as fulfilling as writing a letter to your mom, telling her what she means to you. A pile of new clothes will never be as incredible as showing up on your best friend’s doorstep across the country unexpectedly. A new computer will never mean as much as the weeks you could backpack through South America. Respect your time, your wishes, your body, your feelings, your passions, your opinions, and your right to do with all of them what you please.
But above all else, remember the power of kindness. Be kind to the barista that didn’t make your latte correctly because he’s making $7.50 an hour. Be kind to the bus driver who didn’t greet you because this is her third straight shift. Be kind to the boss who didn’t sleep because the baby needs to go to the doctor, again. Be kind to your parents, to your enemies, to your self. It will make you happier and in the long run, it will bring so much more into your life, and how easy is it to write a story when the story comes to you? Be a beacon of light and guide your dreams to the shore.
Alright, team. JOBS. Because a few of you have asked, let’s talk about your resumes.
1. Take it seriously. Take each application seriously. I know it’s time consuming. I know this is a luxury those of you who are just looking for other jobs might have, but a job is 70% of your time. It’s not something to send spam resumes about. But if you’re going to spam, then make that resume awesome.
2. They should be PDFs. “Save As” and change the format to PDF. You don’t want to send an employer an editable document.
3. If you have already begun your professional career, list schooling at the bottom. It’s more important what you did at the law firm than that you went to The Ohio State University, despite how important that may feel.
4. Limit the fonts. You know how crazy a website looks with more than 2 or 3 fonts? Consider that carefully.
5. Expand on the things you were proud of. You didn’t just organize files; you were an archive savant - you knew where everything was, you were calm on the fly when people needed things urgently, and you were always at the ready. You’re not a robot. There are attributes other than just doing the job that an employer wants you to have.
6. If you can, have someone in the industry proofread your resume. Read it out loud to yourself. All of it. There are an abundance of grammar police in the world, and they might be reading your resume.
7. Don’t make yourself an appealing candidate to everyone, make yourself the perfect candidate to each job you are applying to. In the description of yourself, don’t say you’re an effective communicator who’s cool under pressure because duh,no one would ever say they were a poor communicator who freaks out easily. Instead, think about how the employer would describe their ideal candidate, and work from that.
OK, now go get ‘em.
Anonymous asked: I've been following your lovely blog for quite some time now, but have yet to participate in BMO in my own life. This October, I let a great guy chase me, woo me and ultimately sweep me off my feet. It has been the scariest and most fun time in my 23 years of existence, and I couldn't not extend a thanks to one of the most continually-inspiring bloggers out there. So thank you. Sincerely. You are a gem. BMO forever! <3
jerseycure asked: My bold move is to take more action but to also be patient. 2013 is the year I decided to apply to grad school and make an effort to find a career I will be proud of. It took a lot of time but 10 months later I was accepted to both programs and feel prouder of myself than I expected. In my personal life, I am still learning not to ask questions and to not assume every weird quirk in a relationship means it's over. I'm learning to trust others, but beyond that I'm learning to trust myself.
munchkinpower asked: In the last year I have graduated from college, moving back home, and dealing with an on and off again relationship with a guy who has no clue what he wants from a relationship. My BMO is trying to put myself out there more to make new friends, now that I am out of schooling, as well as letting go and moving on to know that someone out there will appreciate me, and be able to fully decide I am what they want
godo2point0 asked: 2013 saw the end of a 5-year relationship, a new apartment, and a new job after years of self-employment. Everything's different. But my real Bold Move was sealed by a text message from my real estate agent at 11:59pm last night: "Just received the confirmation of acceptance. CONGRATULATIONS!! It's yours." Most expensive Bold Move ever, but it's mine :)
thesound-of-settling asked: My bold move was getting involved with, of all things, swing dancing, which wasn't a scene I even knew about prior to 2 months ago. Blues makes me feel more alive than anything has recently, and right when I wasn't looking I ended up with a guy from the local army base flirting with me for half the night. It's strange and exciting and new and absolutely not what I expected.