Never settle for #1.
Start at the beginning.
datebynumbers@gmail.com.This is a personal weblog. The opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of my employer. My opinions are subject to change. I reserve the right to argue with myself later on down the line when I've learned a lesson or two.
shjaron asked: You have just surpassed yourself. Your blog has never been an ordinary blog, but your latest entry has crossed a line it had never crossed before -- and it did for a mile. I have *no words* to say how amazed I am by you.
Oof, blushing. Thank you. That entry is one of my favorite things I’ve ever written.
I have not been writing. I have been very, very busy not writing. I have been taking out the trash, washing the dishes, and painting my toes to dismal results. I took my hands hostage, forcing them into copying, printing, organizing, and whatever verb that could occupy them. I was updating my resume, my diet, my wardrobe, my life. I was breaking in new shoes and throwing out old bras, curating new playlists and burning old lyrics. I was packing and tossing and cycling and pacing and ignoring the boiling inside.
Life was settling into order, and there was one enormous, insurmountable problem: me.
(Source: datebynumbers)
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?
- Mary Oliver, “The Summer Day”
No one ever said dating was easy. As a matter of fact, most people have said it’s impossible, frustrating, and riddled with rules that confuse everyone. It’s basically social calculus. And like high school math, none of us really want to learn, we just want the A+.
So I’ll recommend what my parents used to recommend to me when I got frustrated – take a break. It used to mean go run around outside, have a snack, watch some TV… but let it mean something a little bigger to you. ‘Cause you very well might be the problem, and not that you’re picky or difficult, but that like so many of us, you’re frustrated and tired and over it. So take a break. Hang out with your friends, work out, learn to cook a few new recipes, paint something totally ugly, and when your mind has cleared, try the problem one more time.
”— DateByNumbers (via fuckititsfriday)
Anonymous asked: Your opinion on a 22 year old female going on vacation by herself? All I've been getting is negativity, and I want to be sure that I'm not that crazy.
I’m taking a break from my vacation to say go.
Every time someone else has called me crazy, it’s been worth it.
Anonymous asked: How do you have a life when working 60 hour weeks? Where is there time for friends, hobbies, and other interests?
My friends are all my coworkers, my hobby is cycling so I commute by bike, and my other interests are satiated by rampant reading on the internet.
No one is saying it’s healthy, which is why I am currently on a tropical island in the Caribbean for ten days.
Lots of “life thinking” going on. On the beach. In a bikini. With kite-boarding instructors.
