on finding your “fuck it”
“I let life turn me into a rule-abiding curmudgeon this past year, and I’d really like to get back in touch with my inner ‘fuck it’. Also, I would follow Ann’s newsletter around the world.“
That’s how I explained why I was going to Guatemala. Ann’s newsletter, for those who don’t know, is a weekly email sent on Fridays by annfriedman containing an assortment of things she wrote, things she enjoyed, and just things in general. It’s not really a newsletter so much as a list of links and gifs your best friend would have g-chatted you if her new job weren’t so incredibly important and busy. And that paragraph was what I wrote when asked why I was sending a check to Ann’s best friend to attend their joint-led retreat held this coming Thanksgiving in Central America—where I was going to find my “fuck it.”
7:24 pm • 12 June 2014 • 125 notes
Anonymous said: I just found out that my college ex, whom I had pegged in the back of my mind as the guy I would eventually move back to and end up marrying, is engaged. My delusion just crumbled around me, revealing that I’ve been spinning my wheels on big decisions FOR A YEAR, “just in case” he changed his mind. If it weren’t for your blog, I wouldn’t have seen that this is actually a huge slice of hope and promise. All I have is me. And thanks in huge part to your posts, I trust that she is all I need.
Can someone freeze my melted heart back together?
3:51 pm • 12 June 2014 • 34 notes
Anonymous said: Come back to us! I know I'm not the only one who misses you!
- about travel
- about moving
- about excuses
- and about breakups
And they’ll all be up in June. I so solemnly swear.
12:19 pm • 12 June 2014 • 27 notes
Soon this will stop being a music blog, but NOT TODAY.
1:40 pm • 6 June 2014 • 6 notes
Cher Lloyd’s new album is everything I wished Katy Perry’s had been.
5:13 pm • 28 May 2014 • 19 notes
Anonymous said: So I'm 7000 miles from home on a trip that's almost finished and despite the clause I had with my parents about not filling me in until I get home about anything bad happening, a well meaning aunt informed me my grandma passed away. I'm devastated and stuck because it's ungodly expensive to switch flights. I need as many virtual hugs and advice as you can send.
I hope she lived an incredible life, and she would only hope the same for you. From somewhere in the world she may never have been, raise a glass and drink it down to love and family.
What you inherited from her, whether it be her eyes, the way she laughed, her wisdom, her humor, her fire, her integrity, whatever it is, just cherish it and when you feel it glow, remember from where it came.
Talk to her tonight when you lie down for bed, tell her all your dreams while she is still close enough to our realm to hear you clearly. Tell her all your favorite memories and confess all the stories she would have scolded you for in life - it’ll be worth a laugh now. Do this whether you believe or not. Let your soul flip through the scrapbook you would have made together. Let your words be the paper and the photos. Let your tears be the glue. And let your heart suffer and heal because wherever you are in the world, she is right there with you.
Here’s to the grandmas who made us the women we are today. Blow them a kiss if you were lucky enough to know them once, and give them a call if you’re lucky still.
4:46 pm • 28 May 2014 • 54 notes
“If you have someone who you think is the one, don’t just sort of think, your ordinary mind, and think, ‘Oh, OK, let’s make a date, let’s plan this and make a party and get married.’ Take that person and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of. And if when you come back to JFK, when you land at JFK, and you’re still in love with that person, get married at the airport.”
— Bill Murray’s advice for young lovers. (via nedhepburn)
2:39 pm • 27 May 2014 • 4,380 notes
“I am excited to see a generation of women who will raise their boys to be good rather than their girls to be scared.”
— Date By Numbers (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)
(Source: godo2point0, via ifyourenotlost)
10:18 am • 27 May 2014 • 215,530 notes