Wait, I didn’t know these guys were good?
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Dating’s not supposed to be a mind game like chess, it’s supposed to be a fun playground game like tag. It’s full of giggles and wonder and sometimes you’re it, so tag the guy, and run away.
You don’t need to “incept” a man with the idea that he is chasing you. All you need to convince him of is that you are worth chasing. Do boys like to chase? Yes. Do girls like to be chased? Yes. Are gender roles malleable and open to interpretation in the world of modern dating? Yes. We all like people who are brave, self-aware, socially adept, and have their own lives they find engaging and fulfilling. Just be one of those people, and if he doesn’t think girls can be “It” in the game of tag, then you wouldn’t want to play with him anyway.”
Here are some things that have brought me joy this week:
An old friend sent me a message recently asking if I had any go-to resources for a little pick-me-up, a little inspiration. This is what I sent her:
Clearly I also like a bit of chuckle when I’m seeking out the advice of others to get my ass in gear.
What are your go-to’s when you need a little inspiration in life?
Anonymous asked: I have been off and on w a guy for 4 years. We are off currently but he always contacts me. We hang out n he treats me like his gf. But then he will say things like I'm going on a date or you should date! But I know he doesn't mean the latter. The answer to this issue is obvious I'm sure but it's hard. I keep trying to cut ties but always fail. He says we can't be but keeps coming back. What can I say that will finally resolve this for good? It's anew year, I can't waste another year of this.
Say that. “It’s a new year, and I can’t waste another year of this.”
You clearly know better. And you know there’s no way to make this easier. There’s no book, no exercise, no theory, no nothing that makes moving on easier. All you do is make the decision and stick to it. And when you mess up, you correct it the next day.
"It’s a new year, and I can’t waste another year of this." Delete, block, throw out, burn up, toss out, and move on, because he’s never gonna be the person you need him to be. And you’re never going to be the person you want to be if you keep allowing him to hold you back.
Anonymous asked: I went out with some girls tonight, movie and a dinner type deal. Our waiter was fiiiine. So I thought, "WTHWPD? What the hell would Prescott do?" and dammit I played coy, with subtle flirting, tipped him half my check, and made out with a phone number. I felt alive, because I thought of you. Thanks.
Sorry. Busy for the foreseeable future.