“There are so many Dark Truths about our lives, but the darkest and the truthiest is this: We make all decisions based on our wicked uteruses. You see, some uteri are virtuous and true. They perform as God made them to, diligently pumping out future patriots at 13-month intervals. Other uteri, tainted by low, regular doses of progesterone and/or witchcraft, become evil. They wander about our bodies, wrap themselves around our brains, making us… oh, what’s that word? For a super unreasonable woman, upset about nothing? Ah, yes, hysterical.”
— Kelly Williams Brown for The Daily Beast in the best thing you’ll read all day.
2:45 pm • 10 July 2014 • 42 notes
Anonymous said: I love the advice you give, you have been such an inspiration. My question is about a guy I just started dating. I've known him for years but just recently have gotten back in contact. We went on a date. I, with no self control, internet stalked him first and found out he just had ended a long term relationship. I thought, a date is a date. But midway through, he gets a phone call from who I think is his ex. He says he'll call said person back later. Is this worth pursuing?
It couldn’t have been his mom? His sister? His step-father? His realtor? His landlord? His roommate? His drug dealer? His parole officer? His colleague? His intern? His web designer? His bestie? His worstie? His vet? His doctor? His grandma? His second date of the evening?
Even if it was his ex, did he say I love you? Get up and leave? Start crying? Talk on the phone in front of you? Carry on as if you weren’t there? Tell her they’d get back together after this date was over?
I think it’s worth taking a deep breath and remembering that if it was his ex, he didn’t choose that call over you. And a phone call from an ex could be about: her picking up her things, that he owed $35 for the last cable bill, that the dog they had together made it out of surgery OK, that she’d run into his mom at the market and it was super awkward, that she found his favorite sweatshirt and dropped it off at his place.
It could have been any person about any thing. If you’re going to be spinning stories, at least spin fun ones.
That, or ask him what he’s looking for. If he says, “I just got out of something serious so I’m just looking to have fun,” then you can make an educated decision about whether he’s worth pursuing, instead of just blindly throwing spaghetti at the wall in the dark.
1:19 pm • 21 June 2014 • 29 notes
Sounds like summer and love and lights and drinks.
8:47 pm • 20 June 2014 • 81 notes
This blog hit 1,000,000 page views today.
Which, let’s be serious, is insane.
HAVE THE BEST WEEKEND EVER, EVERYONE.
4:49 pm • 20 June 2014 • 49 notes
This song is like… very early 00’s Marc Broussard. And I am into it.
2:04 pm • 19 June 2014 • 9 notes
Oooh, yasssss. This is a body roller.
4:41 pm • 16 June 2014 • 12 notes
Anonymous said: Hey Love, I've been seeing this guy on and off for a little over a month. When we are hanging out we have the best time and have a real connection. I will admit that I slept with him WAY too soon but he still seemed interested. However, he is so bad at communicating. He will go days without contacting me. Then when he finally does or I cave and text him, he apologizes profusely and reassures me continuously that he is interested. Am I just demanding or is he just being a prick? Whats going on?
A few things with this:
1) don’t “admit” you slept with him like that’s a bad thing - it is 2014, you sleep with people when you want to.
2) any man who loses interest in you for having consensual sex with you is not worth dating in the first place.
3) now that I’ve firmly established my viewpoint that this is not about when/how/if you slept with him, let me say this:
People have different communication styles, and those styles have their own variations based on what that person wants. Are you looking to eventually be in a relationship? Does he know what you are looking for? Do you know what he is looking for? Have you expressed that his communication style upsets you? Have you forgiven him repeatedly for committing the same transgressions over and over, which it sounds like you have?
Girl, you’re not demanding at all. You’re just passively dating a guy who’s not in a hurry to hang out all the time. That doesn’t mean he is (or isn’t) being a douchebag. It just means you’re hanging out on his schedule and the repercussions thus far have been… still getting to hang out with you?
Get on the same page with him. Level with him. And after you’ve discussed, make some decisions. It is a really, really tough call to admit that you’re looking for something serious and only hanging out once-ish a week is not enough. But you gotta make the call that is right for you.
Life’s too beautiful to stare at your phone all the time.
3:31 pm • 16 June 2014 • 37 notes