Anonymous said: I told him we couldn't see eachother anymore because he said was too busy to make it official, despite us acting "official" for the past while and everyone else assuming so. Now I'm second guessing my decision because we connected well. Please, a pep talk in sticking to your guns despite gnawing self doubt.
If you didn’t second guess big decisions, your ego would be the size of a cow.
Second guessing isn’t a bad thing, it’s called being human, considering all angles, recognizing that you as a person are not infallible, not immune to mistakes. That’s a good thing.
That being said, people have overcome war, famine, and disease to be “official.” If he can’t manage it because he’s busy, it’s actually just because he doesn’t want to. If you want to second guess this decision, do it because he gives you a major reason to.
"I’m sorry, I just have so much going on at work that I can’t admit to myself that you’re my girlfriend. I know it seems like it would save time to call you ‘girlfriend’ instead of ‘girl I’m sleeping with most nights of the week and occasionally on weekends and take photos with and seemingly adore’, but it really wouldn’t. I’m very busy."
Sorry, just threw up in my mouth a little bit.
Stick to your guns because he’s clearly sticking to his bullshit.
1:15 pm • 21 April 2014 • 36 notes
Anonymous said: I'm currently reading through BMO 2012 (working my way up to current date) and I just read the words "Here’s to also deciding not to go for the guy, or to let go of the one that’s been around and taking you for granted too long. Sometimes, the boldest move is self-respect." and dammit, that's just what I needed to hear. Your blog helps more than you could ever imagine. Keep it up lovely.
1:05 pm • 21 April 2014 • 23 notes
Anonymous said: I've been living with a guy for four months now. We had been casually dating before that for a couple months and then both needed a new living situation, so I moved in with him. Since then things have been pretty great, and I've really enjoyed the situation. Now, however, I'm trying to figure out if I have actual deeper feelings for him, or not. I have pretty high walls built up, so it's hard to know. I also want to know if he has feelings for me. How do you even start that conversation?
You know when you’re really stressed out and then someone is like, “you just need to chill out.” And you’re like “NO FUCKING SHIT, SHERLOCK. THANKS FOR ALL YOUR HELP.”
Well, unfortunately, I’m about to give you the same advice. You just start the conversation. Start it when you’re making dinner or something casual… not while cuddling, not anything too intimate. And be frank about it. There’s no test, no quiz, no Magic 8 Ball, no sorcery, no potions, and above all else (as much as I would fucking love this) no blog post that will tell you if he has feelings for you or how deep yours go.
You just need to have a conversation. And trust me, if there was a script that worked, we would all know it by heart. So start with what feels authentic, “we’ve been living together for a bit, and I’ve been curious lately how you feel about me.”
Also, let me just point out that there’s something sort of amazing in, “we were dating for a few months and just moved in together for convenience and it’s been great.”
Like, God bless you, you incredibly chill person. Are you sure you have really high walls built up? Are you sure you’re not just a non-dramatic, very likable human? Things to consider.
I’d love to hear how the conversation goes. Godspeed, oh relaxed one.
1:04 pm • 21 April 2014 • 25 notes
Anonymous said: Have you ever considered riding a motorcycle ?
When I lived on Virgin Gorda, I went with some friends to ride scooters around the island. I took my scooter out into the parking lot to prove to the rental people I knew how to drive it, and then subsequently proved to everyone in the parking lot that I most assuredly did NOT know how to drive it, and crashed it into a car and fell over.
So, no. I have not considered riding a motorcycle. Also, I only ever really wanted to ride a motorcycle so I could pull my helmet off and shake out my flowing golden locks to an audience of definitely-falling-in-love-with-me-but-still-kind-of-intimidated men and women, but my hair actually gets matted to my head in a minute and a half and I end up looking like a bathed cat, deprived of its dignity by revealing the true form of its body.
Thank science for dry shampoo.
12:48 pm • 21 April 2014 • 11 notes
Anonymous said: You've been gone for too long. This isn't fun anymore.
7:13 pm • 17 April 2014 • 28 notes
This album makes me feel like a teenager in a great early Britney / Dream / Spice Girls way.
It’s practically the weekend!
12:39 pm • 17 April 2014 • 11 notes
“The paycheck could not compensate for my sense that I was spending my time making stupid, disposable things, which made me feel like a stupid, disposable person. And I started looking for a way out.”
I have my escape date… do you?
4:52 pm • 14 April 2014 • 55 notes
Any time I lose track a little, this song brings me back on course.
4:38 pm • 14 April 2014 • 13 notes
“At the time, Jacobson and Glazer were already working on a Broad City TV pilot; the plan was to wrap up the series, then head to L.A. to pitch it. But the finale was so well received that they were inspired to hit Poehler up with an audacious request: Would you want to, ah, executive produce our project? “Just being like, ‘We might as well fucking ask,’” Glazer recalls. “I don’t know what the fuck we thought she’d say.” And she said — yes! “So it went really well with Amy. We were all the same height, which helped.””
Bright Lights, ‘Broad City’
"We might as well fucking ask." YES.
4:09 pm • 11 April 2014 • 92 notes
Required Reading: An Undisciplined Body
Read this, because it’s beautiful and because it matters.
This weekend, I’m spending time getting inspired by: drinking with this babe, riding with these babes, and listening to this babe.
Have a safe, indulgent, kick-ass, freeing, relaxing, exciting, or whatever-ing-you-prefer weekend.
Next week, I post.
3:58 pm • 11 April 2014 • 32 notes