Date By Numbers: Archive

Date By Numbers

February 2011

January 2011

playfullyseductive asked: I don't consider myself a "runner", but I have experienced runners' high and receive an immense about of joy while running. It's cathartic for my brain. I've never been able to run to music. Working out, yes music I need, but running is my time.

Start small. Jog, run, sprint, walk. Whatever you need. Mix up your routes to avoid boredom. Pick a time...

Anonymous asked: I've been following you for a little while, and have taken on the task of starting from day 1 and working my way forward. I made quite a bit of progress late last night, much to the dismay of my Monday morning self.

Your post today about Sober February made me think. The first thing I did was look at my calendar for February to see if there was anything that I just could NOT...

angryasianwords asked: i've recently picked up running, it's not pretty. when you've compiled the running blog lists, will you please publish? i'm looking for as much inspiration and motivation as i can.

i enjoy your blog, i haven't read thru it all, i might not, but thus far, i've been highly entertained. thanks.

lifestyle challenges

Two major edits in the works. Running and Drinking. Over the weekend you may have seen the post about me running. I used to enjoy running as a hobby in high school and more so in college, but it fell to the wayside in 2009 and never reappeared with much ferocity. I want it back. Whenever people used to ask me why I ran, I always responded, “in case I ever have to run for my life,”...

tigertwo1515 asked: Wow your ONLY 25? I thought you were older than me lol.

Older and wiser is what I was getting at so please do not take that as an insult.

I know many women around our age group do.

Anonymous asked: Hey this is the anon about the boyfriend with the asshole brother. His brother is 22. Thank you for your response. It is really hard to decipher between straight up nagging and actual communication. I don't want to sound insecure, jealous, or like I don't trust him. We did actually have a conversation about how much this all was bothering me yesterday. I think one of the two issues have...

rowedowntheriver asked: Okay, so you did OKCupid, right? Well, I consider myself a smart woman. I'm told I'm pretty and I know I'm not ugly. I like to read romance novels and watch B-rated horror movies. I feel like I'm somewhat well written. I recently joined a dating site and my question is, am I too critical when I judge people by their grammar and typos? I mean, I tried to edit mine like crazy,...

underthesheets asked: I need you to help me decipher something someone said. I hooked with this guy and when he was driving me back to his I pointed to him and then myself and said "This is funny", referring to how different we look together, and he laughed and then said "Me, the Spanish conquistador and you, Snow White, the fairest maiden in the land", referring to a conversation we had earlier...

Anonymous asked: Hey there :)
I've been reading your blog for quite awhile and you are very entertaining and give great advice.
I've recently encountered and issue with my boyfriend and I asked him "What do you think I should do?" his response was that I should go ask a couple other people for advice. So, of course, my first instinct is to ask a fellow blogger =)

Girls, we need to have a chat. →

I know a lot of my readers are young. Knowing that is one of the reason I started editing out sexual content. I think it is very important to emphasize that I am 25, and I have plenty of lessons left to learn. It’s important to read the article linked, as it addresses the challenges girls (yes, girls, not young women) are facing today. There is a grave difference between owning your...

leftofwrite asked: Kay, I'm not sure how anyone can say that cats aren't cuddly... To my taste they are far TOO cuddly. I just moved in with a friend who has two cats- one a disgusting, bald cat, the other somewhat normal. Despite the fact that the bald one is hideous, it insists that it is cute and tries to rub itself all over me. Or it did for the first week or so. Then it finally got the hint.

wendylovescasper asked: Hello!
I have been following you for a while now and I am aware that you are a cat person. Honestly, I hate cats. They smell, they are mean, you can't really cuddle with a cat, and they have somewhat of a tude. I understand that some people adore them, but I would just as much like to never see one again. I'm just responding to your early post, and I don't look down on cat...

tigertwo1515 asked: Well about the whole why do people hate cats thing, I have my own answer for it. I like "wild" cats because in my opinion they do more such as hunt and kill their own food because if they didn't then they would not survive. You cat is one of the few that I’ve heard that actually get its own meal from time to time.

As for household cats, to me they are just like...

mizzjade asked: Oh hey, just me spamming your ask box, NBD. I've officially made it to page 50. Still obsessed. I feel like you and I are alarmingly alike. Well despite the fact that I'm a t-shirt and jeans girl, a dog person, have been in a monogamous relationship for the past year, and don't really drink. Oh, and I can't walk in high heels. Our basic personality traits are entirely too...

Anonymous asked: Thank you, you are amazing. (now time to use the remaining hours of work to catch up on your blogging) :D

-the friend dater

Anonymous asked: Great advice. (this is the same cat that asked about dating in the same social circle) you nailed it. I do live in a small community. I have also had terrible luck with that before but it just keeps coming up in my life year after year. What you said about how a guy treats his friends really made sense because I'll be damned, I should have seen the signs. That guy ruined my life thus far!...

mizzjade asked: From the first post I read by you, I hated you. I thought this would continue. It has not. I, in fact, wish we could be best friends, encourage you to move to Austin, and would seriously be grateful for your attitude in my life. WHAT THE FUCK, DATE BY NUMBERS!?! I feel possessed. I can't stop reading your blog. I, of course, started at the beginning and am only onto page 113. What crazy...

your first impression of me may have been a bit...

Coworker: is... that the outfit you were wearing last night?
Me: Yes.
 [pause]
Coworker: do you want to go out with us tonight?

Anonymous asked: Random, but for some reason I imagine you look like Kate Mara when I read this. Must be the red hair.
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0544718/

pemanah asked: So, I might need some advice. I think my boss (or, rather, one of them) is hitting on me.

Here's the background: I work as a server at a nice Italian restaurant in town. There are a handful of managers (maybe 5?) and I am pretty certain that one of them has been flirting with me. This is a problem for a number of reasons. 1- Don't shit where you eat. 2- I have a...

glitterynights asked: You write beautifully, so i always enjoy going through pages and pages of your antics. =D

Anonymous asked: I don't know if you had answered this sometime in your blog. I just recently started following you. But I'm curious what your thoughts are on the differences chatting someone up online verses flirting with someone in real life. There have been a few people I wouldn't mind having conversations with, I'm just not sure how to approach someone online.

Anonymous asked: So I'm going to ask you this anonymously so that no one you're following that may be following me sees this... for reputational purposes. Or something. Anyway, what do you think about dating friends of a guy you've dated? It's hard to avoid it seems these days because you get introduced to a group of guys, you may hit it off with one... end up not feeling them later or he ends...

“So avoid using the word ‘very’ because it’s lazy. A man is not very tired, he is...”

– John Keating, Dead Poet’s Society (via paulavaleria)

Anonymous asked: How do you approach guys with the topic of std's? I know I'm very wary about oral sex because I don't want to catch anything. I guess it's moreso if you're exclusively dating the guy, do you just ask if he's been tested or do you ask to see the results or ask him to get tested with you before anything? I know some people would see that as crazy but you can never be...

“The fact that you’re able to run in seven inches of snow in those heels...”

– Wife last night in her snow galoshes, and me in my stiletto lace up ankle boots

babygirl-abk-deactivated2011042 asked: 1st I'd like so say Tumblr needs to invest in a comments box rather than as well, I feel awkward commenting in a questions' box. any who, so I've also found you through So Then She, and have recently stopped following, hehehe, I`ve only read a couple of pages thus far but find your blog very entertaining and relateable to a certain level that is comforting. It remains me of Sex and...

Anonymous asked: Hey, so I met this guy a couple of months ago and just recently started to be interested in him. He's a friend of a friend. I want to spend more time with him, but I don't necessarily want to ask him out, seem desperate or come on too strong. I realize I sound like a 15yr old, but I feel like I've approached this type of situation in the wrong way in the past (too forward) and...

eloquentbones asked: Holy fuck. 3 days, 162 pages, 6 hungoverowls and 59 numbers later, I arrive at page 1. I completely forgot I found you through sothenshe until about 5 minutes ago. I'd ask for that part of my life back, but it was the most entertaining time spent reading about someone else's escapades since, well...I joined tumblr? Keep it up, champ.

I just found out Dawn Ostroff, the demon woman...

first-taste: The person that respectively upped the level of ridiculousness drama-wise on the CW (formerly the WB and UPN) by having useless TV shows like Melrose Place, and 90210. Gossip Girl’s incest. Good riddance. I miss my Veronica Mars.

Anonymous asked: Can you post a link to your first post! Thanks

aroundtheam asked: What kind of job did you have in the Caribbean? I would love to do something similar when I graduate but not sure where to start.

Tumblr supports my shitty habits through...

Symptoms of groupthink To make groupthink testable, Irving Janis devised eight symptoms indicative of groupthink (1977). Illusions of invulnerability creating excessive optimism and encouraging risk taking. Rationalizing warnings that might challenge the group’s assumptions. Unquestioned belief in the morality of the group, causing members to ignore the consequences of their actions. ...

not exclusive, not sitting at home

You know when you really like someone and your brain turns to mush? The 12 year old in you wants to play M*A*S*H and write their name down five times because you’re MEANT TO BE and whoever decided that writing someone’s name down that you totally hate should be shot or whatever. (ZOMG MANSION FERRARI NEW YORK CITY FASHION DESIGNER PRO ATHLETE FOUR PETS NO KIDS, FUCK YEAH.) Just...

xanaboobs asked: Oh gosh, I am supposed to be working and your delicious adventures are distracting me heavily!
(57! 57! 57! He notices sweet things about you! And gives you romantic movie moments. Sounds like a keeper.)

Anonymous asked: In reference to your last post, where did you go, for how long, and what point were you at in your life? I am really considering going abroad for a bit before I start a career after I graduate but am nervous about the return and being 'behind' so to speak.