January 2012
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I will not just deal with it
Anonymous asked: I’m writing to you because I don’t know what else to do or who else to talk to. In recent years, I have undergone the ‘ugly duckling’ transformation and, at present, as a young, attractive female, I’m used to receiving male attention. What I’m not equipped to deal with is the situation I was put in last night - my mentor of several years (a...
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Anonymous asked: I'm a college guy and I kind of have this girl that likes me (whom I like back a lot) so we usually end up hooking up. However, she continuously holds all my bad decisions against me (past lays) when we talk about the possibility of exclusivity. How do I get her past this?
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In case there was any confusion about what...
Please don’t make me, please, please stop, no no - oh my god I’m holding a child, oh god, what, how do you hold this thing? What’s he doing? Ahhhh ah, ah earrings! Ah! He’s chewing on me! Ah gawd what is that noise! Take it, take it! Please take it! Ahhh! [it giggles] oh god, it’s laughing, why is it laughing? It won’t let go of me and it’s...
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“He ain’t no cowboy… what is that fru fru shit around his neck?”
– first email from my Mom this morning.
That “fru fru shit” she’s referring to is a neck tattoo. In case you’re wondering.
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shorterexcerpts asked: So the bold move I'm working towards in early 2012 is a job switch, as I'm miserable and very underpaid (based on every salary survey/job listing that reveals rates) at my current job. But it is a problem, dating-wise. I don't want to stop dating entirely, but feel really hating my job (and not having a lot of spare money to go out on many dates) holds me back (and might make me...
section9 asked: If I may offer to the anonymous plain girl: There is no such thing a a plain girl. Every girl has something that sets her apart from her peers and can get her noticed.
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Anonymous asked: Do you have any words of wisdom for the girls who are more plain looking? I know much of this is in attitude / confidence, but sometimes it could get a bit discouraging.
siteforsoreeyes asked: Hello again! I'm the junior in college who sent you a question regarding her fwb relationship. Anyway, I asked if he would be interested in an exclusive relationship and he was all for it :) Hurrah huzzah! I am elated!
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Anonymous asked: Bold moves 2012 isn't just for the ladies: I just scored dinner & drinks tomorrow night with the cute girl who works downstairs.
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well this isn't going anywhere
Me: you know when someone has a scent that you just die over? like you could use their t-shirt as an inhaler and walk around on clouds all day high on pheromones?
Gemma: absolutely, such a strange and amazing phenomenon
Me: his pheromones to me were like if you walked in and your roommate was cooking dinner for you and you were like, "oh! neat! it smells um... that's so sweet of you to cook. but i... i ate... something... already." and you walk away.
Gemma: wow.
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Anonymous asked: I have been in a faux-relationship for 6 months- the highest of highs, the lowest of lows type. After a disagreement, he texted he needed space. I want to tell him I don't want to be in this relationship anymore & I can't be just friends with him, either (which I know he wants). I've been dumped by e-mail before so I'd prefer to do it in person but I also don't want to...
Anonymous asked: What happened to the that you stopped blogging for?
Anonymous asked: are 15 and 23 the same?
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Welcome to Date By Numbers
Holy smokestacks.
That’s a lot of new followers.
Quick story about the blog. My mom was all, “you’re never going to get married if you keep rejecting people!” I obviously responded like every good daughter would.
I wasn’t rejecting people! Come on! I just wasn’t meeting anyone. Then I thought about who I was dating.
So I started the blog to...
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getting that respect
I’m so glad that last post inspired so many of you. Certainly makes a stressful weekend seem worth it.
What also helped was this:
77’s best friend and roommate, Ryan, took me out to lunch yesterday and invited me to a chic party next week. He didn’t ask about 77 - he asked about my career. Such a kind and thoughtful soul.
66 said, “I was a real jerk the other night....
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on self-respect
I want to tell you three stories about three different men who hurt me in three very different ways.
Thursday Night: 7, the ex roommate who slept with me, and ruined our friendship by keeping his girlfriend a secret… we have not been friends for over a year
7 gchatted me this past week saying, “I’m in town for a funeral - can we meet for drinks?” Well, when you put it...
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“You want a job, a vacation, heath insurance, validation, a back rub, a scalp...”
– Ryan O’Connell, What 20-Somethings Want on Thought Catalog (via thoughtcatalog)
Anonymous asked: So, really, how was your date? P.S. This is not your mother. :-P
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“His apartment smells like appetizers, he’s got street signs everywhere. ...”
– Penny on Happy Endings
Been there.
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ways to infuriate your mother
Mom: how was your date?!
Me: good.
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Anonymous asked: No one may care what you wear to work explicitly but what you wear still sends a message in the workplace to everyone around you. Sadly this is especially true because you are a woman. As a long-time follower I've gathered you are smart and good at your job, so why are you dressing like a sexualised lumberjack? People will to see you like one, and you won't get taken seriously. - From a...
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Anonymous asked: First I'll join the vast majority of your readers in praising you for an awesome blog - I know your blog is primarily for you, but it has gven me and probably many others some confidence, a kick in the butt, inspiration, or whatever you want to call it. Thank you for helping get me out of a rut! Second, what are your tips for a young gal heading off to Europe on her own for a few months?...
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plan of attack: the ex encounter
So, going to see your ex, huh? Some people are lucky. The breakup was amiable, people moved on, picket fences/loft apartments for all parties involved. But when you’re going to see someone who broke your heart, someone who lied, cheated, led you on, what have you… you need to be prepared.
1. Know what you’re wearing. This is not the time to try something new. Don’t...
Anonymous asked: Bold moves 2012? I'll let you know how it goes!
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online dating and its myriad of outcomes
How to Ensure You Do Not Get a Second Date: Hold very still when the bills comes. Choose not to remember you invited me on the date. Smile at me like you know what’s about to come out of your mouth. Shrug as you says, “I only brought ten dollars, but you’ve got that big girl job so you probably don’t care.” Also, tell me that I don’t know what bit torrents...
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Hell yeah
I timed the first 10k of my run this morning to gauge how far I’d fallen off from my race time… I was only 12 seconds slower than my personal best.
Feeling good, feeling great.
To music practice in Little Italy!
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“He is now officially Mr. Smokin’… no names, so I don’t get...”
– My mom, referring to my beautiful OkCupid date on Wednesday night. Don’t name the puppy.
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what have I gotten myself into
I just registered and paid for my first half marathon. And then my second half marathon. And then the flight to get to the second half marathon.
April 15, I run with Wife and her mom in New York.
May 20, I’m off to run in Cleveland with a dear friend from high school.
It’s easy to dick around in your training when you’re only running a 10k. Things seem a little more...
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just making the universe aware
Let’s review who I dated in 2011.
57 started the year off proving that you can like all the same music, movies, activities and career paths, but if your values are different, it’s going nowhere. There was a slew of odd OkCupid dates. There was 66, the Degrassi actor/band member who stole my heart based on sheer adorableness. Oh, Canada. 67, the writer living in a communal space....
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An open letter to the people who hate Obama more... →
by Ministry of Truth at Daily Kos
If you’re tired of the never ending diarrhea of “family values” hatery dispelled in this country, you may find a commiserator in this post.
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commitment
I cleaned my room this weekend. I picked up all the things, did my laundry, made my bed, cleaned the windows, the dressers, the mirrors. I tossed and sorted and rearranged. And I came down to emptying my junk drawer. It was full of pens, makeup, art supplies, medicine, and a slew of matches, lightbulbs, bandaids, and what have you.
These things no longer had a place in my room. I needed...
The Funniest Article I've Read in Months →
chiaraatik:
This hapless attempt at explaining sex to a young girl literally had me chortling in the office.
(I wish I could write like this!)
Anonymous asked: In your opinion/experience: Do actions speak louder than words? I've been seeing someone just shy of two months. We've already had a talk about what we want and he's stated he doesn't want anything "super serious". We see each other three to five times a week, I've been introduced to some of his closest friends, he speaks about things in the future tense and...